ESFJ

The Talkative Nurturer

Friendly, warm and outgoing
Generous and trusting
Usually popular and well-liked
Love social activities
Enjoy sensory activities
Realistic and practical children
Concerned about their appearance and social status
Traditional people , try to fit within the prescribed norms of behaviours
Observant, notice tiny details
Sensitive and sympathetic
Strive for harmony in relationships and will avoid conflict at all costs
Always ready to help, but sometimes may feel that they give more than they receive than others
Eager to please friends and family
Take criticism and rejection very personally
Have strong opinions about the right way to treat others
Thrive with praise and encouragement
Comforted by structure and consistency
Always finish their projects on time
Like routine and schedules

Strong practical skills – they are excellent managers of day-to-day tasks and routine maintenance.

Strong sense of duty – they have a strong sense of responsibility & always want to meet social expectations.
Very loyal – they are eager to maintain the status quo, making them very loyal to the people around them.
Sensitive and warm – they seek harmony and care deeply about other people’s feelings, being careful not to offend or hurt anybody.
Good at connecting with others – they have a strong need to ‘belong’, and are good at maintaining relationships.

Worried about their social status – their over-emphasis with social status limits their creativity and open-mindedness.
Inflexible – they place a lot of importance on what is socially acceptable and can be very critical of anything unconventional.
Reluctant to innovate or improvise – they may also be unwilling to step out of their own comfort zones, usually for fear of being/appearing different.
Vulnerable to criticism – they can become very defensive and hurt if someone criticizes their habits, beliefs or traditions.
Often too needy – they need to hear and see a great deal of appreciation.
Too selfless – they neglect their needs in the while helping others.

Loving, genuine and empathic people with a strong desire to help others
Commit themselves fully to serve their communities and nurturing their families
Get things done efficiently and are reliable
Their dedication and diligence can inspire others
When encouraged to trust themselves and their own values, they become courageous, strong , generous and open-minded adults.

Sunny, optimistic and cheerful
Usually happy, cuddly infants
Bond quickly and closely to their parents and siblings
Happy, eager and willing playmates who rarely want to be alone
Very verbal and expressive, fast and loud talkers
May not speak clearly esp early, but good at expressing themselves by making noises and facial expressions
Love to be at the center of activity, surrounded by other people
Love to be held, rocked and sung to
Love active, physical games
May be alert to gender-specific activities
Love to ‘help’ their parents cook, do yard work , or clean up the house
Usually polite and obedient
Very loving children and want and need an abundance of physical affection like hugs and kisses
Eager to please, they are genuinely concerned about the happiness, safety and welfare of others
Very aware of their own feelings and highly sensitive to other’s emotions
Have a strong desire to nurture
Drawn to help smaller or more vulnerable children, love to carry littler children around
Value order and structure, like to have a consistent and unchanging plan
Want their parents to be specific about times and dates
Like do things in a very step-by-step way
Like to be clean and neatly dressed and prefer their immediate surroundings to be tidy and organized
Like to follow rules and want to know what is expected of them

“Good” children, eager to please, hard-working and reliable
Take their responsibilities seriously and usually put work ahead of play
Stick to gender-specific activities, but usually love outdoor activities
Usually very involved in a variety of extracurricular activities
Gifted athletes , aware of their bodies and tend to be quick learners of physical skills
Take instructions well
Enjoy being in the spotlight, love performing
Warm and expressive, continue to have a large group of friends
May spend more time with friends than at home
Trust their past experiences more than the future
Tend to slow down and proceed with caution when faced with new or unfamiliar experiences
Like to help prepare for holidays and festivals
Love to make art and have a strong sense of color and fashion
Will go to great lengths to do kind and thoughtful things for the people they love
Tend to have strong opinions
Expressive and frank about their feelings and have deeply held beliefs and values that guide their every decision
Like to be in control of themselves and their surroundings

Popular, charming and outgoing
Seem to be having the time of their lives
Often involved in many activities, hobbies, athletics, academics and romances
Love to be in charge and esp like to be given control over projects that involve people
May struggle with their competing loyalties and desire to be at two places at once
Can be overachievers, striving to do everything perfectly
May have real difficulty accepting defeat
Since they are so aware of the opinions of others and so attuned to what is fashionable and cool, they may place undue burdens on themselves
May be unwilling to remain friends with people that have done them wrong
Have even more careful attention to schedules and deadlines during these years
Go through adolescence rebellions, lowering their standards , but it wont last long
Offer increased responsibility along with increased freedom, expect more from them
Need to think beyond what they see in their immediate world when it comes to making education and career choices
Urge to consider waiting before making lifelong commitments

Love and accept them as the caring, loyal and traditional people they are
Have their feelings and values validated and supported, let them see the implications of them
Listen to their opinions and beliefs
Let them know how the world operates
Let them be busy, productive and successful in the eyes of those they trust
Let them express themselves without of fear of rejection
Encourage them to be individuals