ISFJ

The Gentle Nurturer

Private, quiet and reserved ( to outsiders )
Friendly , warm and conscientious ( to close friends and family )
Careful, cautious and concerned about keeping things as they have become used to
Realistic and literal
Likes clear orders
Respects authority and follow rules strictly
Accepts things at a face value
Have clear and strong opinions
Gentle, considerate and loving
Need close, nurturing relationships with the people they love
Kind , considerate , concerned with how others feel
Takes things personally
Get worried easily
Like order and structure
Committed and steady in reaching their goals
May resist change and be hesitant to try out new experiences

Reliable & patient – they are careful , taking a steady approach to everything.
Imaginative & observant – they use their imagination as a tool to empathy , observing other’s emotional states & seeing things from their perspective.
Loyal & hardworking – they often form an emotional attachment to the ideas & organizations they’ve dedicated themselves to and have high expectations of themselves and work hard.
Good practical skills – they can carry out mundane, routine tasks involving caring for others without getting bored.

Humble & shy – they are so concerned with other’s feelings that they refuse to make their thoughts known, or take any credit for their contributions.

Take things too personally – they have trouble separating their negative emotions from their professional lives with their private lives.
Repress their feelings – they are private and very sensitive, and keep their feelings to themselves, which can lead to a lot of stress & frustration.
Overload themselves – they constantly overload themselves as they struggle to meet everyone’s else’s expectations, esp their own.
Reluctant to change – they value traditions & past experiences highly in their decisions.
Too altruistic – they try not to burden others by accepting their offers of help, but often burden themselves to help others.

Warm, giving , generous and fully committed to the people and causes they believe in
Dedicated, patient caregivers
Demonstrate amazing stability and courage in the face of crises
Possess great common sense, inner discipline and faith in their personal values
Learning the skills of adapting, managing change and speaking up for themselves , they can become a source of strength and support for themselves and their families.

Usually gentle, quiet and serious
Snuggly, content to be swaddled and held close
Form deep bonds with their family, want to keep them close
May be hesitant with strangers and are generally slow to warm up to people
Need time to decompress after active day of socialising
Concerned about being neat and clean in their appearance
Very observant children
Notice and remember beautiful or pleasant details
Very selective about certain senses, will panic if forced to try something they fear they won’t like
Enjoy small motor activities and play that involves their hands and fingers
Like to really explore and investigate their toys and can often play for long periods of time with a single toy
Have good memory
Comfortable repeating experiences as opposed to trying new ones
Love to do the right things and be praised for being good
Want to be safe and keep others around them safe
Highly sensitive and gentle with others
Usually express their strong feelings freely and tend to cry easily
Need lots of close physical contact and loving words of encouragement and reassurance to calm them down
Have strong need for routine and structure
Quickly and deeply attach to the familiar and are happiest with predictable and stable routines

Usually love school, may feel apprehensive before they start, but are comforted by orientation programs and early visits
Knowing ahead of time what they will be expected to do offers them a real sense of control over their environment
Need to feel a personal connection with their teachers
Warm up to people slowly
Usually have one or two close friends, and remain connected to them for years
Not comfortable being the centre of attention and prefer to work as part of a team on a project
Enjoy activities that allow to follow clear directions and that end with a result they can be proud of
Realistic and practical, and want to know specifically what they're supposed to do
Usually careful with their possessions and like to keep them in order
Like showing off their collections to people who show a genuine interest , and explaining the details of each object
Love family traditions and holidays
Concerned about appropriate gender identification
Very conventional children
Like to help out around the house
Often happiest helping someone else

Have increasing responsibilities and a growing sense of self-confidence
Their tendency to resist new experiences and to be hesitant to engage in social situations lessen
Continue to take their responsibilities seriously, rarely need to be reminded
Organised and self-disciplined
Still reserved and may not initiate much social interaction
Like to be dressed in nice clothes and be clean and well-groomed, and prefer traditional and conventional clothes
Values their appearance, willing to moderately adapt their style to fit in
Have interest in earning money, and tend to be careful in their money and deliberate in their purchases
Take good care of their possessions
Selective about what they collect as they are about which activities and people they befriend, but are well loved and treated with respect
Sensitive to the opinions of others
Strong need to be liked and accepted, may do things they don’t like just to achieve firm social footing
Rebellion is necessary for achieving independent thought and decision making
Like their personal space to be ordered and tidy